listening:: This is Not by Static-X
I hate fucking drama. I especially hate it when I'm involved in it. Unfortunately, now is one of those fucking times. I have this friend, who shall remain anonymous (except to those who know her), whom I really like as a person, but lately we've been experiencing some rockiness. You she, she's pretty much a lesbian - except for her boyfriend - she's wiccan, vegetarian, feminist, anti-war, anti-guns, pro-all possible rights for humans, and very very very obsessed with being politically correct. She's pretty much everything I'm not, and up until recently, this was never a problem.
Recently, however, we've been watching all these videos on the Civil Rights movement (which wouldn't be possible without their belief in God, OR Martin Luther King Jr., who was a reverend), which obviously deal with alot of racism. And even though my friend is white, she's soooo easily racially offended. In fact she hates words like "white" and "black" - words that don't even offend black people. Or me! Because people call me white all the time, and it doesn't offend me. Guess why? Because I AM. I don't consider myself a racist at all because I don't think the color of a person's skin or the country they originated from makes them different, unless they make themselves different, like people who drive airplanes into buildings. *Cough.* That being said - that I don't think race should be discriminatory - I have no problem with words like "white" or "black." Or even "brown."
So, I'm not quite sure exactly what I've been doing wrong, but I must be doing something, because my friend IMed me asking me not to joke about things she's sensitive about (listed in one of the paragraphs above), and to not force her to believe what I believe. That second request there kind of shocked me because I would never - NEVER EVER - try to force my opinions on someone else because that's simply not what I believe in doing. So I was rather sad and shocked that she thought I was trying to force something on her. I told her I'm sorry if I've been an ass, and she said it's ok - you'd only be an ass if you didn't stop doing it. I said, "...I respect your feelings, so I will try to be a better friend. I'll still believe what I believe of course, and I sure hope you didn't think I was trying to force anything on you because I'm not like that, k?" So she said ok and we sort of came to an agreement and stuff.
The thing is, I want to talk to her tomorrow morning because I expect the same respect from her. It isn't like she hasn't offended me in the past, I just never thought it was such a huge problem that I ought to bring it up.
Tomorrow, I'm going to say, although I would never discriminate her because of her beliefs, I'll always stay true to my own beliefs and I truely hope she can esteem that. I'm going to tell her that I love her and still want to be friends, but because we seem to offend each other so much, I don't think we should discuss our beliefs around each other.
I'll always try to retain our friendship, though, because we're both entitled to our beliefs, and I do love her as a friend. (This entry is starting to make me hate the word "belief" x_x)
I really don't want this to be an akward thing, but I don't see how it can't be because it is such a sensitive subject. The thing is I hate hate HATE politically correctness because I don't believe that you can make everyone happy. And politically correctness just leads to reverse discrimination. Just look at feminism: us women wanted our right to vote and to be equal and to have jobs, and look at us now, we're everything but legally equal. But you know what? Watch TV - shows, commercials, everything. The man is always the stupid one. Can you guess why this is? Because if the woman was made to look even slightly stupid, the feminists will jump all over it and make it into a huge ordeal ("you sexist!!) and all that stuff and we don't want that to happen, no, no. So now all the girls I know are like "men are so stupid!" "men are jackasses!" "I hate men so now I'm a lesbian!" (<----that's not always the case, I know, I have enough lesbian and gay friends to know, all of which I <3, but I had to add that because it's true alot) Because of feminists, reverse discrimination has occured and men are suddenly the butt of all the jokes and hatred and THEY'RE the ones made out to be stupid, and all of them aren't. In fact, I know more asshole women than I know asshole men. In fact, I really hate women. We're conniving, we often think we're smarter than everyone else, we're snooty, we're bitchy, we're PMS-y and generally dumb all around. I hate us. Not that I would want to be a guy. You see how impossible it is to make people happy?
SO STOP TRYING!!!!!!!!
Politically correct notes (sorry, I can't restrain my sarcasm some times): I <3 my anonymous friend! If I offended anyone, anyone at all...too bad. It happens, welcome to the real world where not everyone is always happy. If I offended you, I hope it's not because you're so incredibly closed minded (or close-minded, whatever) that you can't listen to other peoples opinions without being offended.And again, anonymous friend, I hope you can forgive me and that we can get along from now on ^_^